My life on Grindr

So - how do you avoid ending up in some guy's dungeon all tied up? How can you stay safe when using dating and hookup apps like Grindr, Tinder, Blued, Hornet and Romeo?  NEVER EVER: Give out your phone number. Use Snapchat or Telegram if you want to chat outside an app like Grindr and Tinder, since it works by exchanging usernames not phone numbers. Tell anyone any details which could be used to identify who you really are This includes handles on social media!  Tell anyone your last name. If you want, also make up a first name. Tell anyone your address or use the "send my location" feature available in some apps Give out any identifying details like where you work, who you work for, or which gym you go to CONSIDER: Protecting yourself against sexually transmitted diseases. No one is "clean". You can never ever know for sure what they have or don't have. Use a condom. Ev

Based on my own experiences as well as topics I see users are searching for when coming across my blog I decided to start an unofficial FAQ for Grindr. I hope it's helpful to some people. How do I stay safe when on Grindr? It comes down to this: a degree of mutual trust. You must trust the person you are meeting and the other way round. Still, there are things you can do to protect yourself.  See my Top Tips for Staying Safe here! I can't access Grindr and get an error message "Please check your connection settings and try again" First, check:  1) are you actually online and connected to the internet?  2) are you using the latest version of the app? If not, updating it may help. Updating to the newest version seems to fix most issues! The reason you get this error message is because there has been an error in communication between your Grindr app, and their servers. Sometimes it seems to be caused by the Internet connection you

View the video version of this post here! Abandoned [Click here to go straight to my 9 tips for what you can do to move on after someone has left you without explanation ] While on holiday in Durban, South Africa I met this guy called Lwanda. We started a relationship that lasted about 2.5 years. We got married. There was just one snag. He never intended to be with me after we got married, and he had a relationship with another man in parallel for 2 years. You can read my story "Help! I married a sociopath!" here.  At an arbitrary point he stopped communicating with me and completely abandoned our relationship and marriage. I was left with all the questions and absolutely no answers. To this day I have not had any explanation. So this post is to all of you who have been in what seemed like a great relationship or a marriage and your partner ha