My life on Grindr

View the video version of this post here! Abandoned [Click here to go straight to my 9 tips for what you can do to move on after someone has left you without explanation ] While on holiday in Durban, South Africa I met this guy called Lwanda. We started a relationship that lasted about 2.5 years. We got married. There was just one snag. He never intended to be with me after we got married, and he had a relationship with another man in parallel for 2 years. You can read my story "Help! I married a sociopath!" here.  At an arbitrary point he stopped communicating with me and completely abandoned our relationship and marriage. I was left with all the questions and absolutely no answers. To this day I have not had any explanation. So this post is to all of you who have been in what seemed like a great relationship or a marriage and your partner ha

I really thought I had met the one . I married him. I thought we would be so happy together. Little did I know our seemingly happy relationship was to be destroyed by a deep dark secret, and I would be the subject of torment and emotional pain for years to come. The hotel room where I first met Lwanda. July 2015. How it all began: The website advert. July, 2015 .   Cold, still so very tired from my jetlag, and  The first few messages on WhatsApp. July 2015. hungry I stumble out on the balcony of my hotel room in Amanzimtoti, near Durban in South Africa. It's winter but the sun is still shining, warming my cold body. Somehow wishing I wasn't so jetlagged from my travels to the US the week before, I go back into my room, make a cup of coffee and take my laptop out on the balcony. Travelling on business to South Africa, I decided to take a detour afterwards and ge