My life on Grindr

Based on my own experiences as well as topics I see users are searching for when coming across my blog I decided to start an unofficial FAQ for Grindr. I hope it's helpful to some people. How do I stay safe when on Grindr? It comes down to this: a degree of mutual trust. You must trust the person you are meeting and the other way round. Still, there are things you can do to protect yourself.  See my Top Tips for Staying Safe here! I can't access Grindr and get an error message "Please check your connection settings and try again" First, check:  1) are you actually online and connected to the internet?  2) are you using the latest version of the app? If not, updating it may help. Updating to the newest version seems to fix most issues! The reason you get this error message is because there has been an error in communication between your Grindr app, and their servers. Sometimes it seems to be caused by the Internet connection you

View the video version of this post here! Abandoned [Click here to go straight to my 9 tips for what you can do to move on after someone has left you without explanation ] While on holiday in Durban, South Africa I met this guy called Lwanda. We started a relationship that lasted about 2.5 years. We got married. There was just one snag. He never intended to be with me after we got married, and he had a relationship with another man in parallel for 2 years. You can read my story "Help! I married a sociopath!" here.  At an arbitrary point he stopped communicating with me and completely abandoned our relationship and marriage. I was left with all the questions and absolutely no answers. To this day I have not had any explanation. So this post is to all of you who have been in what seemed like a great relationship or a marriage and your partner ha

If you want to meet someone of the same sex - for just some fun or something more serious - there are lots of apps to choose from. So which ones do you use? Here is a handy guide. Each app tends to be popular with a certain audience. It breaks down like this: APP TYPICAL USERS LIMITATIONS ON FREE TIER Grindr All ages and categories, 98% are looking for just hookups, global reach Must view ads, basic filters, limit in number of users displayed Tinder All ages and categories, many guys who want to hide they are looking for another guy No rewind, limited likes, no super likes, can't see likes Hornet All ages and categories, all about looks User display limit Jack’d Mostly black users in the North America Scruff Mostly mature men/daddies, popular in the US Taimi Mostl

I really thought I had met the one . I married him. I thought we would be so happy together. Little did I know our seemingly happy relationship was to be destroyed by a deep dark secret, and I would be the subject of torment and emotional pain for years to come. The hotel room where I first met Lwanda. July 2015. How it all began: The website advert. July, 2015 .   Cold, still so very tired from my jetlag, and  The first few messages on WhatsApp. July 2015. hungry I stumble out on the balcony of my hotel room in Amanzimtoti, near Durban in South Africa. It's winter but the sun is still shining, warming my cold body. Somehow wishing I wasn't so jetlagged from my travels to the US the week before, I go back into my room, make a cup of coffee and take my laptop out on the balcony. Travelling on business to South Africa, I decided to take a detour afterwards and ge