My life on Grindr

Have you ever deleted a dating app from your phone? Out of sight, out of mind, right? Wrong. Deleting an app only uninstalls it from your phone. It does not delete your data. Or your profile. Consider logging out instead! After some years on the dating app scene I have noticed people saying they would be "deleting soon". Some users have told me they have deleted the app and then reinstalled it, hundreds of times.  I probably have to spell it out: It may seem  like things are gone when you tap that delete option but it just deletes it from your phone and none of the dating apps prompt you to also delete your profile on the server. Obviously they have no incentive to either. I think that is a problem in itself - what if you were prompted to either log out instead, or delete the app and your data on the server? Since all your data remains intact it also means people will be able to see your profile on the app. If you really do not want to use the app anymore most apps have a fe

Has your marriage or relationship ended abruptly? Have you recently lost someone? PTSD? Trauma? Narcissist discard or simply abandoned when you were in a marriage or relationship? Then what you need is to be distracted .  There are plenty of videos and blogs about how to temporarily distract yourself for a few seconds or minutes if you feel panicked or anxious. It works. What they don't tell you is that longer distractions also work wonders! Distractions will help you heal.  So what do you do?  Distract yourself or let yourself be distracted!  Call in help from friends, colleagues, family - let them distract you and temporarily relieve your mind of what happened to you. Maybe now is the time to reconnect with old friends as well? A distraction is  not an escape.  Y our memories, trauma and experiences will come with you wherever you go. They won't suddenly go away! You should do do anything that temporarily switches your thoughts to other things than your trauma.

You may be wondering how apps like Grindr, Tinder, and Taimi all work?   See here for my review of the best apps.   There are two types of apps: Grid-based apps show a grid of guys, sorted by location - nearest to more distant, from left to right. Any  grid app allows instant contact with other users. Card-stack apps such as tinder display a stack of cards with user profiles and you then swipe left or right to indicate if you like them or not. The user cards presented are not sorted by distance, but rather in a randomized fashion. With these apps you will have to wait until the user you like also likes you before you can start chatting! Location All these apps use location  to help you find other users. Most apps will prompt you to turn on location on your phone if it's already off. The